April 9, 2009

I Should Never Be a Stay-at-Home-Mom...

...Even though sometimes I want to. I look at my babies, and sometimes I want nothing more than to be home with them, all the time. Then I must remind myself WHY I should not stay at home.
1) Pajamas. I enjoy pjs too much, so I am very likely to remain in them. The same ones. Day after day. I've been on two maternity "leaves" in two years... and I have rotated pink-and-black flower pants with flannel-bubbles-britches, off and on, for days and days. And I'm okay with that. My love of pjs could mean one of two things: that if I was a "homemaker," I would be unlikely to leave the house, and thus, my children would become hermits. Or, I am likely to leave the house... in said pjs. Thus, my children could be perfectly well-rounded people, only with a terribly embarassing mother.

2) Oprah. Enough said. Oprah is the root of all things evil, even though she is good at her core. She finds "favorite things" that you simply "must have" (hence, you spend too much money), and then finds faults in your spouse that you never knew he had (and the list goes on).

3) Peanut Butter and Oatmeal. I would eat nothing but peanut butter and oatmeal. And probably coerce my children to do the same. I'm not really sure if there are adequate vitamins in peanut butter and oatmeal. Not to mention, I think that James might have a peanut allergy - so that would only leave him with oatmeal to eat.

4) Pollen. I would remain in the house in my pajamas for fear of the pollen. Again, the children might become hermits.

5) Bathing Suits. I would try my hardest to take my dear children to the pool in the summer time. But then I would be foreced to pay another mother to actually take them INTO the pool... so I didn't have to show myself in a swimsuit.

6) Laundry. I obsess about un-done laundry. If I was home all day, and was forced to look at piles of laundry (folded, unfolded, dirty or clean), I would have to get out of the house - and fast. And if you don't think this is a problem, see #1, above.

I have so much more to give my dear babies when I am off in the world for a few hours each day. For one, having a job makes me get dressed. And while I would prefer to work each day from 7:30 to 12:30, and spend the rest of the day with the children, I just do not have that luxury. Yet. Considering the fact that I work in a very demanding career, and manage to spend about 3-4 hours of good time each day with them...I think this is pretty fantastic. I know some moms who arrive home in time only to kiss the baby goodnight. I get lots of kisses before night-night. And for that, I am thankful. Also, I think my lack of time with the children subconsciously makes me overcompensate... I cook more healthy food to freeze for James so he has perfectly portioned food, I pump milk (still) for Stella (even though I am so OVER it), and I give them more attention in a short span of time at night than I probably could during the day, if I had to do it day in and day out.

Life is good. Even for a working woman with two children under two. It can be done. And it appears, that it can even be done fairly well (or at least I tell myself).

1 comment:

Kelly Bringman said...

Thanks for the boost. I have been pulling some hella-hours trying to hack my way through this market, but the great thing is that you can take it back to basics. I am blessed to be in a job that let's me spend a good "quantity" of time with my daughter with nice quality time in the morning or in the evening. I get to watch her grow and as a side-effect, she knows what termite inspections, flyers and text messages are, if only in an abstract fashion.